3 Statements that Heal Everything

Maybe that’s an overstatement… but isn’t that what the internet is all about? This post originally appeared at EPTworks.com….


That’s right, there are only three statements, well, forms of statements that can heal everything. They are 1) I forgive myself (for believing)... 2) I forgive others (whoever that person(s) is in your life that you need to forgive)… and 3) I give others permission to forgive me (when I hurt them the same way I was/am/hurt)… Combining these statements together creates holistic, past, present, and future healing.

Present: I forgive myself…

This might be kind of strange to start with, but forgiving yourself should be the easiest thing you can do (you’re the only person involved here!). However, I say “should” because, well, it’s not always so easy. Forgiving yourself is often the last part of healing anyone ever thinks of, especially if this forgiveness also involves someone else. One of the way EPTworks frames this forgiveness statement is usually with a qualifier, for example, “I forgive myself for believing…”

For example, when something bad happens to me, or I make a mistake, it may cause me to believe something negative about myself that reinforces repetition of the issue. If I believe I am a victim, I may continue to be victimized. If I believe I am unloveable, I will not feel love. If I believe I have no control, I may constantly be looking for places in my life where I can control. Until I forgive myself for believing these negative things about myself, how can I heal from them? How can I get over them? Even if someone else supported the cause of these negative belief patterns, I still have the power to forgive and let go of how I treat myself regardless of how someone else treats me.

Forgiveness of self empowers and helps survivors completely heal. There is often opposition to forgiveness in abusive situations, that is to say, if I forgive, I will continue to be hurt or victimized. Forgiving oneself protects against this, because as soon as I let go of and forgive the belief that I deserve a certain situation, or that it’s my fault, or that I can’t change, I am able to walk away and potentially break the cycle. And all this can happen before even considering the next statement!

Think about what you might believe to keep you in negative patterns, pain, and illness, and forgive yourself for believing it.

Past: I forgive others…

This is what most people think of when they think of forgiveness.

I forgive you.

Well, we know that’s not true based on the first statement. Forgiveness is much more multifaceted, but as annoying as forgiving another person can be, it is also necessary to do in order to heal everything. No man is an island. No one lives in a vacuum. So, there is always someone else to blame for our problems, issues, pain, etc etc etc. Even if I, all myself self, make a mistake, there is so much at work you may not even be aware of that might have caused you to make that “mistake.”

Take, for example, whatever is generationally or genetically (?) at work in a family, and then there is a teenage pregnancy. Usually, the situation is not an isolated event. More often than not, the mother also had a teenage pregnancy, maybe an aunt or a grandmother or a sister… There is always someone else. Same goes for lots of familial patterns. One would think that we would learn from our history… But alas.

In this example, the girl who got pregnant unexpectedly as a teenager may have, first, just believed, based on her familial/generational examples and patterns that this is just what girls do. Then, she may need for forgive whoever (mom, grandma, aunt) for teaching her (not explicitly) to get pregnant as a teenager, and she may need to forgive whoever else was involved at the time of pregnancy, maybe even (generationally) the men that would have been involved.

The list of people and feelings that need to be forgiven can go on and on. EPTworks helps to pin-point the exact time period and people involved that established a negative pattern and forgive the specific issues related to the pattern in order to move on and heal completely.

Other patterns that might exist? Cancer, suicide, abuse, divorce, or addiction… What and who do you have in your life that you know you need to forgive for establishing negative belief patterns in your life?

Future: I give others permission to forgive me…

This is probably the strangest and least intuitive statement, but it really rounds out the process. This statement is tough, because it is essentially saying, “I give other permission to forgive me, when I do the exact same thing to them!”

I hate to admit this to myself, but I do the exact same things to others that I hate. If I believe I am alone or unloveable, then maybe I will push people away, or be a regular downer (making no one want to be around me). I will do things to others that potentially could make them feel unloved or alone. In my negative selfish pattern, I end up doing to others what someone else did to me, and them blame them?! What is wrong with me?

Like forgiving myself is present oriented, forgiving other is past oriented, giving others permission to forgive me is future oriented. I am anticipating that I will make a mistake, and allowing the other person(s) to forgive me for all the times I do (from the time of the originating event until the end of time).

Where in your life might you be doing the exact same thing to someone else that you dislike or do to yourself to keep negative patterns?

There you have it…

Those are three statements that heal everything. Forgiveness crossing time and space, life and death, and all that jazz. Practicing well-rounded forgiveness is exactly what EPTworks is all about. Not just to heal the past, but to launch you into a happier future.

-By Paige Cargioli

(@paigecargioli, asceticpaige.wordpress.com, BetterLifeHealing.com)


Author: Paige

Explorer. Healer. Eater. School counselor, teacher, party planner. Personal passions are holistic healthcare education, spirituality, food, and writing.

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