My body is not a problem.

I was reading an article about Roxane Gay’s interview with Trever Noah. My information (right now) is limited, and a few places removed. I’m writing based on less than 500 word article on an interview of an author who is talking about their book. (Thus, the problem with the internet and citation.)

Anyway, from what I could gather, and I know that it’s super watered down, Gay talks about in her eating and being overweight as a defense mechanism and a response to trauma. The article quoted, “My body is not a problem.” Continue reading “My body is not a problem.”

Spread the love: Making 9/11 a Day of Forgiveness

Freedom Tower

Reposted from BetterLifeHealing.com. Spread the Love.

Today is Patriot Day, a day of remembrance for the attacks of 9/11.  This happened 12 years ago, but with the Syrian conflict looming in the background TV news of our supper tables, it’s as close to home as ever.  Continue reading “Spread the love: Making 9/11 a Day of Forgiveness”

You can be happy.

Do you ever feel like…

Nothing I do or don’t do will make me happy.  I’m destined to be sad FOREVER. I think something will make me happy, but nothing will.  Therefore, I will never be happy…

Maybe you’re not happy with your job, a situation, just life in general… We all have those moments when we feel like we will never be happy again. Think of a child (or adult) throwing a tantrum, at that moment, they genuinely believe that they may never ever be happy again… Maybe it’s because they didn’t get their way, or maybe because of a significant trauma. But genuine joy is possible.

Continue reading “You can be happy.”

I’m bored.

Where exactly does boredom come from?  As we’ve learned this week, people (kids!) will kill out of boredom.

I was never that bored, and around puberty (as many people are), I was especially bored.  Lately though, I’ve found myself saying it more often than I’d like.  Even when I’m doing things, I’m bored.  I watch Netflix: bored.  At work: bored.  Walking: bored.  Church: bored. Homework: bored. Continue reading “I’m bored.”

I’m not ready.

I’m not ready (for positive change, or what I want).

When is anyone ever fully ready for healing, transformation, change?   No one ever looks back and goes, “Oh yeah, I was totally ready for that big (or small) change in my life.”  Even when you know it’s coming like moving, a new job, marriage, birth, or even death, you can read all the articles and self-help books, get advice from friends, but in the end, you don’t know how the change is going to effect your life.  That’s okay!  Continue reading “I’m not ready.”

I will never forgive them/you/whoever.

Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die… Read this, and take a deep breath after each statement. Continue reading “I will never forgive them/you/whoever.”